I've been told

I've been told by some of my family members that I'm quite abrasive and blunt. It's not that I mean to be at all. In fact, most of the time when they claim that I'm being like that, I'm usually just saying that it's not a good time, or I think that I'm showing that I'm indifferent or tired at the moment. I'm just mentioning this because through conversations like this I realize how incredibly horrible people can be when using their intuition or they insinuate in their own minds how they think a person is simply by a few encounters. The worst part is that they never ask to clarify exactly how I reacted. My brother also brought up that some of my younger cousins even going way back might have felt that I was angry or bitter often while they were growing up. I'm actually fairly content with just living day to day most of the time. Most of the time, my cousins might have caught me at a moment where it was something that I have strong feelings towards such as people rearranging my stuff. He went on about how I don't offer to pay. I told him that it wasn't that at all. I thought it was fine for anybody to just ask. Then he went on about how sometimes he shouldn't have to ask. I think that's fair enough with family. It's not fine as a general rule though for me. Asking should occur and It's something that you shouldn't be ashamed to do. That's why I don't like asking for anything if I can from anybody. It's about what's expected afterwards or not. I'm just going to stop here. I can't think of anything else to say and I really should be sleeping.